At each check-in, the research team asked the couples to assess their levels of what psychologists call the big five personality traits: extraversion how social and outgoing a person is , openness to experience how intellectually curious or adventurous someone is , conscientiousness how dependable and plan-oriented a person is , agreeableness how cooperative or compassionate a person is and neuroticism how anxious, depressed or angry a person is. Some of the findings are a ringing endorsement for marriage.
On the whole, husbands became more conscientious as they adjusted to their new roles, and wives became less anxious, depressed and angry. On the less rosy side of things, husbands became less extroverted, and both husbands and wives became less agreeable.
That relationship length mattered very little took lead researcher Justin Lavner by surprise. News U. Since you'll be seeing more of your spouse than any other person in your life after you're married , you'll be witnessing their best—and ugliest—sides. As you grow more accustomed to just letting it all hang out, you might be more vulnerable and open to other experiences as well. After you've let someone completely get to know every part of you, it's more likely that you'll have less trepidation about trying something new.
According to a University of Georgia study , which examined heterosexual couples, husbands became more conscientiousness after marriage, meaning that they were more likely to consider their wives' needs.
In an interview with The Cut , study author Justin Lavner said that the change in men "may reflect the fact that their wives are encouraging them to be a little more conscientious, and reinforcing that. The University of Georgia study also found that over the first year and a half of their marriage, men are likely to become more introverted. As a couple, in fact, it's highly likely that you'll become more introverted.
According to the University of Georgia study, both men and women grow less agreeable over the first 18 months of marriage. With that data, it's no wonder they say the first year of marriage is the hardest. The research from the University of Georgia also found that marriage benefits women's emotional stability.
The study authors speculate that the commitment of marriage had a positive effect on women's neuroticism, which decreased over time. Most users on the Married People of Reddit thread said that the way they spend money changed significantly after getting married. More than a few users pointed out that using joint bank accounts felt strange since you're able to see everything that your partner spends money on and vice versa.
As you can likely imagine, marriage means the end of any semblance of privacy. You'll find that all of your deepest, darkest secrets will now be common knowledge to your spouse. That may sound scary, but it can actually be freeing.
As Lauren Fraser told Wedding Ideas Magazine , your texting habits change completely after you get married, especially when communicating with your spouse. Now that you've officially dedicated your wholly to another person, it makes sense that your time with friends will become more precious.
Newlyweds are more likely to plan more laidback activities on the weekends and after work with friends, saving the bigger adventures to do together as a married couple. Statistically speaking, according to a study conducted by Tilburg University , both men and women exhibit better self-control over the course of their marriage. Researchers found that couples refined this skill via arguing. Eventually, we realize it's better to bite our tongues instead of losing control and saying something that could jeopardize our marriage.
Husbands become less extroverted while wives become more closed off. However, in better news, husbands become more conscientious. Husbands become less extroverted. Wives become less open. Both become less agreeable. Sign up for notifications from Insider! Stay up to date with what you want to know. Loading Something is loading. Email address. Women become less neurotic and men become more conscientious. Past research suggests that women, on average, tend to score higher in neuroticism than men.
They also tend to be more conscientious — and both of those findings, Lavner explains, may come into play here, with people taking on more of the positive qualities of their partner. A better takeaway, then, might be the fact that they change at all.
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