Review of General Psychology. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. The endurance of love: Passionate and companionate love in newlywed and long-term marriages. Your Privacy Rights. To change or withdraw your consent choices for VerywellMind. At any time, you can update your settings through the "EU Privacy" link at the bottom of any page. These choices will be signaled globally to our partners and will not affect browsing data.
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Table of Contents View All. Table of Contents. What Is Passionate Love? What Is Compassionate Love? Influential Factors. Passionate Love Scale. Influence on Relationships. Passionate love may be quick to fade, but compassionate love endures.
What Are the Five Love Languages? Was this page helpful? Thanks for your feedback! Sign Up. What are your concerns? Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read our editorial process to learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy. Strong couples have date nights, make new memories and laugh together. Keep things exciting. You can be vulnerable together. Emotional intimacy is a hallmark of companionate love , and is just as essential as physical intimacy to a passionate relationship.
Are you comfortable being vulnerable and telling your partner your most intense dreams and fears? Your partner inspires you. They push you to grow and become a better person.
Sometimes life happens and relationships become less passionate. Now you must commit to saving that connection and rekindling the passion in your relationship. But when you have passionate love , there are always embers burning. You can have a fulfilling relationship with your partner — the time to start is now.
What can we help you find? Generic filters Hidden label. Hidden label. We would be together and have our books and at night be warm in bed together with the windows open and the stars bright.
I would rather share one lifetime with you than face all the ages of this world alone. Your words are my food, your breath my wine. You are everything to me. To sum it all up, passionate love is the state in which most loving relationships begin.
How long does this passion last? It is really up to the individuals. For a lucky few, this hot passion can last a lifetime. But that takes effort and a dedication to being truly attentive to keeping the embers burning. For most couples, there is a normal ebb and flow to passionate love. The trick is not to give up when the passion seems to dim.
Passion can always be reignited with some work and attention from both parties. Take Course. Unfortunately, we often feel fireworks with people whose defenses fit with ours and who reaffirm old, familiar, often unpleasant ways of feeling about ourselves and others.
While we may feel passion and excitement in the initial stages of these relationships, our defenses will often eventually get in the way, as we find ourselves either becoming more and more distant or increasingly pursuing our partner in ways that trigger their own defense system. There are two ways that fantasy can undermine real love. For instance, if our attraction to someone is based on form or something superficial, we may be drawn to the fantasy of being with that person without having the feelings of deeper love for that person.
Falling in love can feel like a dream come true, but it is not a fairy tale in the sense that it has to be based on reality: real affection, respect, and attraction toward another person. In fact, Dr. Robert Firestone developed the concept of the fantasy bond to describe an illusion of connection between a couple that is substituted for feelings of real love and intimacy. To learn more about why a fantasy bond develops, what it is and how to challenge it click here.
Lisa Firestone advises that we think of love as a verb. If we want to stay in love for the long haul, we have to engage in loving actions. That may mean challenging our own defenses and avoiding the trappings of a fantasy bond in order to remain open and vulnerable to another person. In a recent blog, Dr. These include:. If we commit to these characteristics as principles we uphold within ourselves, we are much more likely to stay in touch with our loving feelings and keep passion, attraction, respect, and admiration as living forces in our relationship.
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